I’ve never been one for reflections. Looking back and trying to understand, evaluate, or change what has happened. It’s like looking in the mirror in the morning and trying to justify last night. I don’t want to do it.
I’ve faced many of the problems described in the two presentations. In the past, I have generally tried to get along. I have tried to avoid confrontations. And, generally, it hasn’t worked. I’ve had the case where someone disappeared, did not respond, and could not be found. We reassigned her work and went on. It was not until an online meeting attended by the instructor, where the instructor asked about the person that someone else explained the disappearance. And, the instructor was mad at us!
I’m not sure what I will do next time. The instructor brought the person back to the group, we had to divvy up the work again. It made for more work. Of course the team member disappeared again. When do you get to kick someone off a team?
Neither of the presentations dealt with how to remove someone from a team. In another situation, another team member disappeared. By disappearing, I mean didn’t attend meetings, didn’t complete assignments, and didn’t respond to emails and phone calls. In this case, another team member wrote a letter to the instructor. Agreeing to sign that letter was one of the more difficult actions I had to take. Why wouldn’t she just show up?
I’m not curious about what I am going to do next time. Teams are hard work. Working together on a class project is worse. No one is in charge with real authority. The examples in the presentations each relied on the good will of the offending team member. It is assumed that the team members want to participate, or will clean up their act when caught. I’ve had two cases where that was not the case.
So, when reflecting on what has happened and what I might do differently, I wonder about how to handle the situation where there is nothing I can do. I wonder about the repercussions.
When looking at reflections, I’m always afraid of what I will see lurking over my shoulder staring back at me.